Destination : m/m
My reading journey … destination m/m
Pre-kids I loved reading – I always had a book (or two) on the go. Wilbur Smith was my favorite author, he wrote what I knew, what I recognized, dealing with issues that interested me – Africa. My husband is Irish and so my tastes and interests moved outside of Africa, I remember reading a book called “Jig” by Campbell Armstrong and oh my God! It was excellent! When I finished it I truly felt like I had lost a friend – that book was definitely one of the most potent reading experiences I had ever had. Then I had kids… And the time to read was a luxury I did not have.
Fast forward 10 years and a friend begged me to see this movie with her. She was kinda embarrassed as it was a teen movie (we were in our 40’s) the movie was “Twilight”. I loved it! I saw it 8 times at the cinema, bought the blu-ray, and yes I bought the t-shirt too! But most importantly I bought the books – this rekindled my love of reading. The kids were at school, I had the time, and I was a bookaholic once more.
I upped it a notch from Twilight by moving onto the “Sookie” books by Charlaine Harris. Still very much Vampire and Werewolf crazy I went into a paranormal frenzy – Laurel K Hamilton, Chloe Neil, Rachel Vincent, Karen Chance, JR Ward etc and along the way I picked up some friends that will be in my life forever. JR Ward’s “Black Dagger Brotherhood“ was my first hint of m/m with the possible thought of Butch and V as a couple. I liked it. Then a good friend, Faye, asked me if I would read m/m and recommended “PsyCop” by Jordan Castillo Price. I said sure, why not? And so FINALLY I get to the point of this post…
For those that don’t know me I need to share a bit of myself – I am not stupid, I am pretty creative, I am very corny – honestly, I do try to restrain myself from making catch phrases for everything! But this is the key Barb-trait – I am ridiculously naive. I said to Faye at the time – “this is so neat, a series of books with gay guys as the main characters – I see a real niche for this!” I truly had no idea that there was a whole LGBT genre out there with every kind of sub genre within. She told me politely (and maybe laughingly) that there was. After Jordan I moved onto Josh Lanyon, Ethan Day, Ginn Hale, Voinov… and destination m/m was reached.
Friends of mine ask why m/m has me so hooked – and honestly I don’t know how to answer. Sure, two guys together are hawt but I feel patronizing and sexist by just saying that. I am a sappy romantic at heart, I absolutely have to have romance in any book I read and the sweetest romances to read are those when the journey is the hardest – and in 2013 with all the homophobia still about, the journey to HEA-land for two guys is just so powerful and beautiful. I do know that as a 49 year old wife and mother, I may not “get” a book in the same way that a young gay guy might. I also know a sweet coming out or coming of age story cannot mean to me what it might mean to a guy that has shared that journey. But that surely doesn’t make my opinion on a book pointless? No books in fiction ever have a total focus group, that excludes others; ultimately books will always resonate differently with different people. But a well told story is capable of transporting the reader to a time and a place well outside their normal day to day life experiences.
I have often wondered what gay men think of women being such big players within the m/m genre – be it writers, readers, reviewers. Do they feel slighted by it? Or do they feel that by wives and mums loving the genre it can only feed on through family values to their kids and that will lead to a better, more open minded society? I know that after my discovery of the m/m market my children have watched movies like “Shelter”, which we all loved, and that can only be good – to see it as romance not segregated as gay romance. Just romance. Pure and simple… and beautiful.
Please leave your opinions and comments – I would love to know your route to the m/m genre or your opinion on females loving it as much as we do. Thanks xx
Beautifully said, Barb.
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thanks Aniko xx
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Ciao I’m Italian, 44, married, two children, and, lucky me, an English reader as in Italy M/M romance is still a genre in the shadow. Dear Barb I read your article and I said “OMG that’s me!!!”. I made the same journey. Twilight, V&Bucth and then Blay&Qhuinn of the BdB. My fav M/M romance Authors are Lynn Lorenz, Andrew Gray. The best book of this year ‘After the End’ by Alex Kidwell. Why I love M/M? I don’t know…there isn’t an answer to this. In these books I find a kind of romance, struggle, feelings, love so pure and real I hardly find in M/F romance. Maybe is only the curiosity for something I don’t know and experienced that appeal me so much. Whatever it is, I love reading.
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Thanks xx I think a few of us share the same journey 🙂
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A night at home with one of my bffs, chinese food and twilight…that was the end, or the beginning.
Two weeks later I´ve read and re read the books, found some peeps on FB that said one magic word…fanfiction LOL
That turn into SLASH fanfiction and here I am, 5 years later I hardly read M/F anymore and it´s all about boy love 🙂
And who knew there will be so much * whispers*porno*whispers* available OMG!
My BFF still doesn´t get it, she is always saying “we saw the same movie, wth is wrong with you” LOL
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you know what? Twilight has a lot of detractors but sheesh it got a lot of people reading!
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I love this post, Barb. I don’t think you must be a particular sex to enjoy this genre because readers are readers, so give us a fabulous story, we’re there. As with any book category, this one clicks for you or it doesn’t — it’s personal taste. I didn’t find m/m by reading fan fiction as so many women have. I’m a mystery/romance fan. I found Josh Lanyon’s Fair Game by googling. Serendipity! From there, I found the Adrien English Mysteries, JCP’s PsyCop series, Marie Sexton’s Promises, the Abi Roux’s Cut and Run series and on and on and on. I’m lucky to have been given so many wonderful recommendations by friends to excellent work. I LOVE the genre with its very good to exquisite writers. It’s about loving romance, mysteries and men for me.
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You’re quite right Carli! The sex of the reader is irrelevant, and the sex of the MC’s is too – a fabulous story is a fabulous story. End of.
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And reading. It’s about reading. LOL
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I did not laugh when you didn’t realize m/m was a big huge genre. I may have had a grin. Personally, I read the books I read because they’re good stories. In the past I haven’t read fantasy fiction because I’m a witch, I’ve read fantasy fiction because they’re good stories.
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oh man, Faye – they were fun and crazy times – all our private messaging about those books! Good times 🙂
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And I thank both of you for grabbing me along for the ride! I honestly could never thank you enough for introducing me to a whole new world of fantastic authors I otherwise would never have discovered.
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And thanks for bringing me along as well. My journey was pretty much the same as yours, Barb. And Faye’s. And Aniko’s. We have traveled a long way together. I could add many names to the list that traveled with you. You know who they are.
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It was fun to get sucked into the PsyCop madness!
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This post could have been written about me, too! I’m a wife and mom (we are even the same age). I read a lot of Stephen King books in my younger years, some romance novels. Then it got to the point that I didn’t read much at all until guess what…I discovered the Twilight series. 😀 That lead to Charlaine Harris, Laurel K. Hamilton, and JR Ward. Then I got a Kindle and things really changed. I read some books by Shayla Black, Lauren Dane, and Lorelei James. Some of their stories included characters that were bisexual and some had menage storylines (m/m/f). This is how I became interested in m/m romance. Now, that is the genre I love to read the most. It has really made me more aware of glbt rights and changed the way I think about a lot of issues. I am not afraid to voice my opinion to others about them, either. 🙂 Like you said, hopefully this will lead to a more open minded society.
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absolutely Lisa! and dare I ask .. Bill or Eric?
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I’ve always been a reading addict. Books were the one thing I was almost never denied as a kid and I can remember going to the library before I was able to read. I read my first m/m book when I was 13 or 14; before the concept of m/m even existed I’m sure. It was a book by Gordon Merrick and I bought the 3 books that the store had. After the original 3 I didn’t find any more until about 18 months ago when I ran across an article on another blog that was about favorite m/m series. I remembered loving the books I’d read and immediately went and bought some of the books that were mentioned.
Since then I’ve gone to reading m/m almost exclusively. I agree with you, I think that the fact that it is so much more difficult for 2 men to find happiness together is at least partially the cause for my enjoying the books, as sad as that is to say today. Actually the books have gotten me involved in the fight for marriage equality here, something I always supported but was never very active in doing anything about. They have really opened my eyes to a lot of issues I wasn’t all that aware of and have made me want to make a difference where I can.
The Adrien English series was one of the series listed on that blog post and as much as I loved the m/m aspect I also loved the mystery aspect, my first genre love. The writing in those first series was very good which led me to explore other authors in the genre. Many have been amazing; some not so much but that is to be expected. I’ve gotten to know some of the authors a little bit as well. Nothing beats a good, well-written story and the opportunity to discover new authors that aren’t on all the best-seller lists is a bonus.
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Beautifully put Allison xx
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Mine followed almost the same path! I don’t really question why I like it so much but I do. I think so many main stream het books kept putting love triangles in their book and I got sick of it. So when Faye and Barb suggested trying Psycop I did. Then Adrien English about killed me! I still read UF and PNR but it’s nice to have so many other options out there.
I also don’t see that it’s such a far stretch that we as straight woman like to read about gay men. We love men! I also read about elves and vampires doesn’t mean I have to be one. I think we all read to be transported and see things from someone else’s POV and hopefully the author does that for us.
Great post, Barb!
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that is such a good and valid point – m/m books don’t seem to have stupid love triangles. I HATE love triangles!
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Possibly Adrien English almost killed you ’cause I told you it ended with shots fired and Adrien in tears. I still feel bad about that. I laugh and feel bad at the same time lol.
And I hate love triangles! With a purple passion!
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Great post Barb! Thanks for sharing.
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Thank YOU, as always, Felix xx
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Same story here! I’m having a hard time putting a finger on why I enjoy m/m books so much. I read a lot of different genres, including m/m. I’m attracted to a well designed plot, a sexy romance, dialogue that makes me laugh, and emotional intensity. A lot of m/m authors deliver exactly that!
It helps that m/m authors are perhaps the most fan friendly group of authors around, and the readers are some of the most persistent book pimps! You know who you are.
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I certainly know who they are! @.@
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I would have to agree. Most of the m/m authors I’ve met and/or correspond with are so very fan friendly!
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